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Alright, let's see what we have today!  As always, Surviving the World hits it out of the park:

Philadelphia added black and brown to their pride flag.  There are a lot of different pride flags.  And although I think they should have laid it out differently (maybe put black at the bottom and brown at the top to better match up colors), I think this is really cool.  For a long time, the HRC ('corporate gay') was only focused on white, cis-gendered gay men.  This isn't much, but it at least starts to recognize the people of color that are part of the queer community (and have been since the beginning, helping to kick off the Stonewall Riots), so I think it should be welcomed!

And of course, part of the conversation about the role of corporate America in the quest for queer rights.  We just had a good discussion about this over brunch, actually!

The perks of being in a gay relationship:

Speaking of, don't forget, the Catholic Church doesn't think you deserve love if you're gay.

In case you were wondering, the Babadook meme came about because for whatever reason, Netflix put it in their LGBT category.

The Scottish Episcopal church will have same-sex matrimony!

Okay, one more Surviving the World:

The Harry Potter books: as titled by Ron and Hermionie

The touching facebook post of an ally cop.

Amazing video of a gorilla playing in his bath.  Really adorable!

Kesha's new song is amazing:

The French marching band played a Daft Punk medley for the President, but can we talk about the fact that they march French horns?  I mean, if any country would, it's France....but still, why not just use a mellophone?

A court is allowing Mississippi to enshrine anti-LGBT discrimination in law.

In case you forgot, the Catholic Church is a hate group.

And in what is really, really worrying (now with a solid five conservatives on the court, please, please hang on Kennedy!), SCOTUS has agreed to take on a 'religious freedom' aka I want to legally discriminate so I'm hiding behind Jesus, lawsuit.

The miracles of Jesus...under Trumpcare:

And finally, some are hailing these ads of previously anti-gay family members apologizing to those they've hurt.  But here's the deal.  That then puts the onus on us, as queer people, to always take the high road and say we forgive them and welcome them back.  Sometimes we're tired.  Sometimes we don't want to.  Sometimes the pain of cutting someone out of your life is so great, that opening that wound again to let them back in isn't a possibility.  Maybe don't be an ass in the first place.  Look at your life, look at your choices.

That's it for now, have a great one!


Alright, been a bit behind due to Half Marathon training I started writing this in May, but forgot about the draft, sorry about that, but it's updated and finally finished- but let's see what we have today.  First up, a great letter from the Good Men Project about the people we've lost due to the election.

The Buffy 20th anniversary reunion.

Surviving the World has a great comic for Pride:

Science has created a drip-free wine bottle!

A Federal Court found that the Civil Rights Act protects LGBT employees from workplace discrimination.  This is huge, but will likely be fought (hint, read on).

In one 24-hour span, the new administration delivered three huge blows to queer rights: erasing us from the census, removing workplace protections for federal contractors and slashing budgets of programs to fight HIV/AIDS.

Randy Rainbow serves up an awesome Wicked parody:

PA legislator Brian Sims was being harassed by an online troll. So he called the troll's grandmother.

Can we all just finally agree that Andrew Sullivan is a horrible person?

The problem with gay conservatives is a total lack of empathy.  A great piece by Slate.

The beautiful tribute to Carrie Fisher at Star Wars Celebration:

Betsy DeVos will not protect LGBTQ students.  This is my shocked face.

An awesome follow-up from an Outsports story, I love seeing people around the country (and world) being able to help each other!

A fully magical* pub is set to open, all set in the Harry Potter world!  *Magic achieved via science and movie affects.

This dropped from the Hamilton Mixtape this week, and it's amazing:

The full, original text of Tolkien's "Beren and Luthien" is, for the first time, available.  For those who have studied Tolkien, this is a huge deal.  That story is pretty much the basis for the lore that then came full circle during the Lord of the Rings.

Juno has been sending back jaw-droppingly beautiful shots from Jupiter, take a look!

A new rule for the New York Subway (or at least newly being enforced) is that all dogs must fit in a bag (or other carrier). So New Yorkers are doing exactly what you think they are.  

Eli Lieb has a beautiful cover of "Castle on a Hill:"

A reminder that the Catholic Church still considers gay people 'intrinsically disordered' and other deeply offensive bullshit.

And a Republican lawmaker in Missouri thinks there is a literal distinction between humans and gays.

Alright, that's it for now, I'll be back with more, I have a couple other drafts to finish up!


Today marks the 48th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, which launched the LGBT-rights movement.

If you’re not familiar with the riots, here’s what happened:

We owe so much to those brave trans-women of color, homeless youth and drag queens who launched the riots and the queer revolution.

People ask why we celebrate pride.  NoFo writes it much more eloquently than I ever could, here is an excerpt:

We’re proud because despite relentless persecution everywhere we turn—when organized religion viciously attacks and censures and vilifies us in the name of selective morality, when our families disown us, when our elected officials bargain away our equality for hate votes, when entire states codify our families into second-class citizenship, when our employers fire us, when our landlords evict us, when our police harass us, when our neighbors and colleagues and fellow citizens openly insult and condemn and mock and berate and even beat and kill us—we continue to survive.
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We’re proud because—thanks to the incredible bravery shown by gay people who lived their lives openly in the decades before us—we can live our lives more and more openly at home, at work, with our families, on our blogs … and even on national television.
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We’re proud because after all we’ve been through, the world is starting to notice and respect us and emulate the often fabulous culture we’ve assembled from the common struggles and glorious diversity of our disparate lives.

We’re proud because this weekend we’ll celebrate with drag queens, leather queens, muscle queens, attitude queens and you’d-never-know-they-were-queens queens, and together we can see through the “pride” in our parade and enjoy the underlying Pride in our parade.

Quite simply, we’re proud that we have so much to be proud of.

We can take some time, and even in the face of hatred, bigotry and discrimination, we can carve a place in this world, claim it our own and celebrate.

We can celebrate, because this is our party.  We don't need anyone's permission to celebrate:

Because even if Pride doesn't change many minds in the outside world, it's our PARTY, darlings. It's our Christmas, our New Year's, our Carnival. It's the one day of the year that all the crazy contingents of the gay world actually come face to face on the street and blow each other air kisses. And wish each other "Happy Pride!" Saying "Happy Pride!" is really just a shorter, easier way of saying "Congratulations on not being driven completely batshit insane! Well done, being YOURSELF!"

We can celebrate the community that we have, the radical acceptance that we embody and the fact that we’ve survived.  We have a chance to come together, remind ourselves we belong to a larger community, have some fun and take back our city; just for a little bit.  We know that hatred will continue, but still we march forward.  We have pride because it helps those coming after us.  In the words of Harvey Milk, it gives the next generation hope:

And this is a chance to celebrate the fact that I’ve survived.  A chance to celebrate the fact that I’m a proud gay man.  And even that act, powerful unto itself, has hopefully made a difference.

The most important and powerful action a person can make is to come out to those around them.  Then the LGBT community isn’t a scary abstract anymore, it has a face.  If you know someone who is openly LGBT, you see their humanity.  You can understand that we’re not asking for anything special, just the same rights everyone else is guaranteed by the constitution.  A chance to be happy.  A chance to live the life we want, surrounded by those we love.

When will we stop talking about coming out?

"Many of us want to, and will: when a gay, lesbian or transgendered kid isn’t at special risk of being brutalized or committing suicide.

"When a gay person’s central-casting earnestness and eloquence aren’t noted with excitement and relief, because his or her sexual orientation needn’t be accompanied by a litany of virtues and accomplishments in order for bigotry to be toppled and a negative reaction to be overcome."

We will stop talking about coming out when it’s not news anymore, when the last barriers have finally been broken down.  We’ll stop screaming for our rights when we’re finally treated as equals by our government.  We’ll only stop telling our stories when they don’t matter.

The anniversary of Stonewall comes just two days after marriage equality came to all 50 states (and the anniversary of decisions in Lawrence v. Texas and Windsor v. United States), a major piece of the equality dream the drag queens, homeless youth and the rest of Stonewall protesters had less than 50 years ago.  In 11 years, we've gone from no marriage rights to full equality across the country.  We still have a lot to fight for, ENDA being at the top of that list, but for now, we can celebrate the 'thunderbolt' of equality that we have achieved:

So we keep fighting for progress, wherever we can.  We celebrate our advances and keep chipping away at our obstacles: and this month we can celebrate both, as well as the individuals that make up our amazing community.

In light of the Orlando massacre, it's more important than ever to celebrate Pride.  To not be intimidated by the hate, but to instead keep rising, demand equality and fight for our very right to exist.  What hurts the most about Orlando may be the reminder that even our own spaces, which we thought were safe, aren't.  Or maybe they never really were, not while hatred and prejudice still exist.  But as we face, united, the epidemics of gun violence and homophobia, we can at least take solace in the fact that we, as a community, know how to win epidemics.

We’re proud of how far we’ve come.  We’re proud to keep fighting.  We’re proud.


Alright, let's see what we have today.  First up, we salute you bravely fired McDonald's social media employee

Mostly Human takes a look at technology, and how we process grief after the loss of a loved one.  With bots.

Having a good work/life balance is important.  Science has proven it, and a healthy sex life improves job satisfaction!

And speaking of, the (straight) media needs to leave Tom Daley alone.  We don't know the details of his relationship with Dustin Lance Black, nor is it our business.

Clue is becoming a comic book!  With multiple endings, because of course!

If you'd like a good variation on Pachelbel's Canon, take a listen:

There is now reusable tape that you can use to make anything a LEGO surface!  It bends!

As it turns out, Mr. Aonuma and I have the same favorite Zelda game: Phantom Hourglass!

Would you like to see Chris Hemsworth do his Thor workout? Of course you would.  You're welcome.

The HRC brilliantly trolls right-wingers by buying ads on grindr during CPAC:

If you're not reading The Player's Tribune, you're missing some of the best writing anywhere.  They posted this article dedicated to the memory of Brendan Burke.


Alright, let's see what we have today.  This was written before the awful GOP bill was introduced, but here's a real-life example of what people will lose if the Affordable Care Act is repealed.  And how it will affect the queer community as a whole.

A great Kiss Cam ad:

And check out this awesome ad coming out of Denmark, celebrating our similarities.

The Church of England has a small revolt to allow for same-sex matrimony.

Which is good, since The Church (in the greater sense) drives gay people to suicide.

Madeline Albright is a badass:

A great resolution to the story of a trans boy who led the BSA to change their membership policies.

A great cover of "Million Reasons:"

A great (very) short film about what it's like to be trans in everyday situations, check it out.

And lastly today, the gay pep-talk you may or may not need to hear:

 


Alright, let's take a look at what I have today.  First up tips for remaining productive in terrible times.  Important regardless, don't forget to floss!

And speaking of, here's some great advice from Surviving the World.

In defense of participation ribbons (or medals), and a funny look at running..

I'm pretty sure this is an accurate representation of conversations I've had:

The nerd takes on "Nevertheless, she persisted." From Buffy to Katniss to Hermionie, as awesome as you imagine it.

I have never been prouder to be a NaNoWriMo Municipal Liaison!

An amazing look at OCD from the Player's Tribune.

Justin Sayre is a treasure:

The perfect shower beer has been made!

Did you know that Pluto is still a planet...in New Mexico?

Ugh, I think what scares me the most is that Lord Dampnut is just a mirror to what this country is, and I can't believe we're that awful.

Two of my favorite people on the internet got together and made an awesome video:

And finally, one more from Surviving the World.

Have a great one!


Let's see what we have today, first up, don't worry, Drumpf is taking a long weekend.  Thank goodness there isn't a war starting in Western Africa or North Korea is reading nuclear weapons.

Speaking of, Al Franken is having none of Betsy DeVos and her lies or support of gay "conversion" therapy.  DeVos also thinks we should have guns in schools because of bear attacks.  Seriously.

Dumpf is already planning slashing large chunks of the government, including essential services for women who are victims of domestic abuse, and the national endowments for the arts and humanities.

And in further horrific news, Drumpf has already shut down the office of AIDS policy.  To those saying "we survived Bush/Reagan, we'll survive this," I will remind you that we literally are missing a generation of gay men due to the AIDS crisis and Regan's refusal to even say the word.  Check your privilege, not everyone made it.

But let's look at the positives, here's a great thank you to Obama:

Brian Sims is introducing legislation to ban conversion therapy in the state!

In other good news, the abortion rate is the lowest it's been in decades! (expect that to change as Republicans seek to close health clinics, but for now, good news!)  A reminder, those of us who are pro-choice don't want to see more abortions, and with comprehensive sex-ed as well as access to resources at Planned Parenthood, the abortion rate will continue to decline!

And here's how to dedicate yourself to making the world a better place!

Okay, one last comic before we move on:

xkcd has a shout out to Yucca Mountain!  Yes, I'm an energy nerd.  I've accepted that (and a transportation nerd).

And JoHo looks at how maybe, just maybe, we're not a horrible species.

I had a great weekend, and I'll be uploading some pics and talking about it soon, so look for that!

 


Quick update today, first up, in case you missed it, watch President Obama's farewell address.  For a little bit, it made me hopeful for the future, and is a great send off for the work we have to do during the next administration.

And speaking of Obama, he surprised Joe Biden with the Presidential Medal of Freedom with Distinction, and it's touching (and well deserved)

A new trailer for The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild dropped, and it looks amazing:

A new study has estimated that Pokemon Go has added more than 144 billion steps to our global activity levels.  That's awesome!

Mark Hamill (who voices the Joke in the Batman animated series) is doing god's work by reading Drumpf's tweets as The Joker.

Current regulations make gay men remain celibate for a year if they want to donate blood, and a man did that, to protest the discriminatory ban.

And finally, the IOS has a great video about how we have to work together, have a watch:

That's it for today, have a great one!


Alright, let's see what we have today, first up, in not shocking news, not having access to comprehensive sex ed leads to a rise in abortion.

Two Google Homes are talking on twitch, and it's as crazy as you think it is.

The trailer for Bright Lights:

Hey look, well don't actually look, we have a new organ!  Or at least, bits that we thought were separate are now considered an organ!  Don't dissect yourself or anyone else to look, please.

New Year resolutions for gay men.  One of mine is to volunteer more and another is to be in more queer spaces.  To help with that, I'll be volunteering at Outrageous Bingo again!  It's a great night of fun bingo, huge cash prizes and a drag half time show!  It usually sells out, but I hope to see you there sometime this year (January is already sold out, it almost always does, so buy early)!  Another resolution: write more, especially this blog!

This week's Savage Love column included a shout out to the FrontRunners, my running group (just a different chapter), so cool!

This analysis from 538 might not be accurate: we still don't know much about Supreme Leader Snoke and his involvement, there's a theory he's been around since the prequels.

That's it for now, trying to keep these shorter and easier to handle, with a little more commentary!  Have a great one!


It's the yearly round-up of yearly round-up videos.  First up, DJ Earworm:

Google's year in search, this one will probably make you cry (I did!):

And YouTube's year in review:

The good things that happened in 2016, from Super Fruit:

That was all that I came across this year, but I also took the last week of the year off Facebook and Twitter, so your mileage may vary.  I'm still working on my personal 2016 wrap-up video, that will be coming (hopefully) soon!